Dumping ...

These are things I wish I knew in my teens or 20s, things I feel today at 48 years old would have positively impacted my state of mind and the course of my life. 

Dumping, nope not the kind where one person in a relationship lets the other one go. Unlike that dumping, this is rather cathartic and has a very positive impact on the brain.  

The way it works is you keep loose leaf paper and a pen, by your bedside, and every morning just as you wake up, even before you brush your teeth, you write down every thought or word that comes to your mind. No filtering your thoughts just anything and everything.

One morning I filled pages just with the words "yellow truck" I had no idea why, but I kept writing until I felt like I had nothing more left within me.

Once you are done, you tear up the pieces of paper, throw them away and go about your way. You must tear and throw, this is not a journal, this is a release!

I have used the Dumping technique at night when I couldn't go to bed and had so many thoughts racing.

I have used the Dumping technique when I feel like crying, but have no idea why.

I have used Dumping when I can't find the words I need to have a difficult conversation with someone. 

There have been times I have started writing upon waking up, brushed my teeth and come back to the paper, got dressed and come back to the paper because there is just a lot to release.

There have been times I have been done in 1 minute.

The core essence of Dumping though is to do it in the morning to set your day up for success by removing the excess thoughts that your brain has brought to the surface while you slept.

Dumping is to be used to understand yourself, your fears, your emotions and your patterns. It is not a place to blame another or write a letter to someone who has hurt you.

For example, early one morning, last year, I had a conversation with an elderly gentleman with whom I work. I respect him very much. He said something on the telephone call which made me want to sob as soon as I got off the call. Instead of making it about him, I grabbed my paper and pen, sat down and let the thoughts roll. I started with what he said on the call, how I felt, a previous time someone else had made me feel this way, and as I kept writing I discovered that I was hurt because I felt unwanted. Feeling unwanted was a childhood trigger. The reality was this gentleman just didn't need me at the meeting, he was freeing up my time. 

Once I was done writing, I realised how many times over the years this trigger had set me back emotionally, in my relationships and at work. I tore up the paper and have never looked back. 

See if this works for you. It has been a game changer for me.

In my teens and twenties knowing about the Dumping technique, would have helped me through the stress of exams, bullies and teasing, feeling like I don't belong when we moved from India to USA when I was just 13, college relationships, friendships, losing a promotion and so much more.

Let me know what you think about this technique!

Huge shout out to my friend Nandita for teaching me about Dumping!

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